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Tuesday Truth - Growing Up With Fear

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I'm very happy to have a Guest Post from Kaui at Organizing Military Mommy.  Her story:

"Growing Up With Fear"


I grew up in a family that promoted fear on a regular basis:

"Never talk to strangers because they could hurt you."

"Don't take candy from your friends because they might try to molest you."

"Don't eat too much because then you could get fat and no one would like you."

These were the kinds of things I heard from my parents and extended family all the time.  To top it all off, my family was strict.  VERY strict.  If you stepped out of line just a little you were going to get yelled at by someone.  Stepping out of line a lot warranted some heavy punishments and hours of lecturing that occasionally lasted until 2 or 3 o'clock in the morning.

As you may have guessed, by the time I was an adult I was scared...of everything! Scared of the dark, scared of talking to people, scared of getting married, scared of having a family...just to name a few.

WHEN REALITY HITS

When I finally did get married and started a family my fears increased tenfold.

Then my greatest nightmare was realized: at 5 months pregnant with my first baby my husband received word that he was going to be recalled into active duty and sent to Iraq when our Daughter was just going to be 6 weeks old.  My husband had gotten out of the military just 6 months after we married, so I had no idea what it meant or felt like to be a military wife, and I had no clue what it was like to have my husband go off to war.

The military was not going to pay to move me to the station he was going to be associated with, we were living hours from the closest duty station, and our closest family member was over 6 hours away.

I spent many nights crying myself to sleep from that point on.  Things were going so well, why did this have to happen to me?  How was I going to take care of this baby by myself for 1 whole year?  What if my husband dies?  My head was spinning.

When friends of mine had their baby showers I ended up running to the bathroom several times during the event to compose myself.  Why do they get to have their babies with their husbands by their side and I don't?  It didn't seem fair.

OVERCOMING FEAR

And then an amazing thing happened: my relationship with the God of the Bible became closer than I ever expected.  Through the washing of His Word and His revelation of the truth based on what it truly means rather than what man says it means, I became strong.  As He showed me how deep His love goes my fears began to disappear one by one.

Now I am thrilled to be helping mommies all over the world overcome their fears and step into their potential through my blog.  I share military life, organizing tips, and mommy adventures for free.  Why don't you join me?


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So, how about you?  Have you had a similar experience to Kaui's?  Has fear played a large part in your life? After reading her story I am beyond grateful that my family didn't remind me constantly how scary the world can be.  I mean, we did have talks, there would be discussions.  And, I didn't grow up scared of being yelled at over any little thing.  Can you relate to Kaui's story?

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