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A Simple Comment?


During the long drive home from the Oregon Coast we made a stop at the Visitor's Center in Astoria, OR.  This sweet town just celebrated the 25th Anniversary of "The Goonies", which was filmed all around the town.  While looking at maps and souvenir shot glasses the guide at the Visitor's Center looked at my youngest daughter and gave her a compliment.  Very nice.  Then this person said "I don't know who she looks more like?  You look like your mom and a bit like your dad.  I don't know?"

My daughter just looked uncomfortable and tucked her way behind me.  I couldn't quite understand the desire to pin-point who she looked more like.  What does it matter?  For some reason this inquiry irritated me.

I was actually smiling and providing a "safety hug" when odd thoughts came to mind, what if my child was adopted?  Or, what if this child was from a previous marriage and either I, or her dad, weren't a birth parent?   This simple comment about "I don't know who she looks more like" could take a very awkward turn.

I'm not saying that people shouldn't share observations, this situation just brought something to mind. 

I don't know why I think this way... I just do.

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