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Dealing With "Distaste Face"


While on vacation I was reminded of a commercial.  This commercial was about a family on vacation and the mom catching her teen daughter actually smiling when she thought her parents weren't looking.  (I wish I could remember the commercial - was it for Disney Vacations?  Or, some kind of cruise thingy?  I don't recall.)  The message of a somewhat grumpy teen only putting on her "distaste face" around her family has obviously stuck with me, and I'm glad.

We are having the sweetest family time on the Oregon Coast and I have finally learned that it isn't my job to make my 14 year old happy. Or, better yet, for her to show her happiness when I'm looking. I've given her enough tools, enough opportunities to find some kind of joy in what we're doing, and if she chooses to share her "distaste face" when I say 'Let's go try to fly this kite!' Or, 'Your sand castle looks great!' then that is exactly that, her choice.

Now, I hope I can remember this "choice" thing the next time I plan something and she appears grumpy.  Here's hoping!

Do you have a way of coping when your teen seems to be unhappy while the rest of you are having a great time?  Please share!

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