I Think This Is Going A Bit Too Far

I belong to a Facebook group for my neighborhood.  My community is quickly evolving in such a way that doesn't please a lot of "old timers" and you'll read many comments basically saying "Go away Hipsters!" and "Just say 'no' to building a New Seasons!".  While in another thread you'll read someone inquiring about where to get the best veggie burger or wondering how to petition to get a Trader Joe's in the neighborhood.  My favorite posts however, are the ones stating "Chickens on the loose on Main St. Anyone missing their chickens?"  Yes, the television show Portlandia has been filmed in my neighborhood.

This Facebook group is a fun one with neighborly inquiries, complaints and sharing of information of what's immediately going on around us.  But there was a post yesterday that had me shaking my head.  I'm just not sure what to think of the inquiry and I wasn't sure if it was a put on.  Someone in the neighborhood wants things, in great condition, for free and she wants them a.s.a.p.  Here's the post:

"I had my baby shower a few days ago and didn't get anything. It's a boy. So if anyone has anything I need that I can have for free that would be amazing. I'm due within a few weeks so I need them asap: infant soothing swing, gliding bassinet with storage underneath and mobile that plays lullabies and stuff, diapers and wipes any size, soft rocking glider and ottoman in great condition, baby bath, and anything else I can't think of right now. Please let me know if u have anything for me."

Maybe my reaction wasn't the most polite, but my jaw dropped.  Was this a real request?  She seriously had a baby shower and didn't get anything so now she turns to Facebook neighbors for her wish list fulfillment? She is asking strangers to provide an infant swing, a mobile that plays lullabies, a glider with ottoman - in great condition - and a bassinet with storage underneath.  And get this, with further investigation I found that she doesn't live in town however her mother lives near by and she visits her mother a lot.  So, well, yeah.

Comments from the group were perfect in directing her to facilities that help for just these circumstances.  I resisted in commenting.  I have so many questions but I don't think I could write them in a way that doesn't sound judgmental.

A stranger didn't get gifts she wanted from a party.  Upset, she goes to Facebook and asks for what she wants.  Hmmm. There was no "Does anyone know who/what/where I can contact to help me?"  Or, "Anyone know if there are organizations I can contact to help me out?"  Perhaps I wouldn't be so irritated if she had included the sentiment of appreciation, if the understanding that generosity is a factor in this transaction.  I didn't get either one of those from this post.  Oh, also the fact that this items need to be in "great condition". The last line just gets me:

"Please let me know if u have anything for me." 

I fully support helping others. We all have our moments of being in need and I want to help.  I give, support, donate often.  I just feel this post/request was over the top.  What do you think?

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  1. I think pregnant women should be freed of all hormonal rants they might spew. ;)

    1. Ah yes. Those darn hormones can be out-of-control :->

  2. This comment came from FB:
    "WOW. Unbelievable. Wonder if anyone who attended her baby shower, where "she didn't get anything" has a different story"

  3. WOW… I just don't know about this one. I'm all for helping people especially when they are down, but I am also quite fond of gracious hearts. The way she worded things could have been differently, it's as if she was listing her baby shower registry, well except for and stuff.
    I hope she does receive some help (hopefully from family), and I want to remain optimistic that she will be thankful and care for that sweet baby boy with an open and gracious heart.


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