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Time To Vent - Part ???

While hanging out at our house my daughter's friends loose tooth comes out. Good for her! We put it into a plastic zip-top bag and she puts it in her pocket. As the day goes on my daughter asks if her friend could have a sleep-over ('Again?!', I'm thinking. We should just get her her own bed. She's been with us so much she's like our 3rd daughter!)

After the familiar dancing, laughing, fits and fights the girls finally wind down and fall asleep. My husband and I thought it would be nice if we shared with this young girl what we have done for our children regarding The Tooth Fairy. We print out a certificate, add some fancy hand-writing of 'Congratulations', 'Good job', stuff like that, then fold it up nicely with a dollar bill and slip in under the pillow while we remove the plastic bag with the tooth in it. Sweet and simple.

As I was making the switch this young girl rustled. I quickly dropped to my knees and stayed quiet until I felt the coast was clear. Whew. Being on Tooth Fairy duty can be risky.

The next morning, after breakfast, my daughter and her friend asked me to come talk with them in the Living Room. My daughter pats the couch cushion beside her as a gesture of "Sit next to me Mom". After I sit down I ask 'What's up?'. My daughter says "I know you're the Tooth Fairy Mom". Wha'???

I look at her friend who has a huge smirk on her face. My daughter says "It's OK Mom. Really." I had to look away. I was just so sad. And pissed. I turned back to hear this friend say "I saw you. I was awake." *smirk*smirk*

My head was flooded with 'What do I say?' and 'How do I recover?' My daughter said, "Mom, really, think about it. A little fairy? Trying to carry a huge molar?" I know. I know. And I'm sure that my oldest has known for quiet some time. The thing that gets me, what makes me livid, is that her friend ratted me out.

My husband and I had a guest in our home and since she was going through a bit of a transition we thought we would extend a courtesy, share something fun that we do as a family, with this young girl. And what does she do? She shares what she knows with my daughter.

I had to walk away. I was just so sad. I knew I was being unreasonable, but I was so mad. I went to my husband and told him what happened. He was sad too. He said "Well, we had a good run."

We extended a gift, an innocent gesture, to hopefully make a little girl feel special. What we received was another little piece of innocense lost. And here I am, a melodramatic mother, crying about yet another fantasy her daughter has grown out of.

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21 comments:

  1. Oohh.. I would be so MAD!!! Really mad!

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  2. Oh man! Now that would have REALLY pissed me off too!
    What great parents you are, though. Such a sweet gesture on your part. Your daughter and her friends are very lucky indeed! (When I was a kid, my parents never had cool friends like that... sigh!)

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  3. Oh no...i'd be angry at the little girl (sorry)...I'd be a little more grateful if I were her. I'm so sorry!

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  4. It is sad, but at least she believed it for this long.

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  5. I suspect we will go through this shortly. As far as we know our kids still believe but at their age their friends are likely to blurt out things sooner or later. Don't sweat it ~ your great parents and taught your daughter well. I have no doubt she appreciates all you have done for her and will continue to do so. (((HUGS)))

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  6. Awwwww, I'm sorry. I keep waiting for my kids to say something that they've been told, especially my oldest.

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  7. What a sad story! I really hope that your daughter remembers the magic and what her parents tried to do for her. So sad that her friend ratted you out. But as your husband said, at least you had a good run with it.

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  8. girls can be catty, and I hate that she had to ruin it for your daughter and for you too... that just really sucks....

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  9. Oooooh that's a tough one. First of all, let me congratulate you on your keen sense of self control. I think if it had been me, I might have wanted to strangle that little girl for opening her smirky mouth.

    I wrote a post about the Tooth Fairy myself awhile back...don't know if you saw that one, but this reminded me of it. Here's a link in case you're interested (I'm sure you have about as much spare time as I do--meaning none. LOL).

    http://secretsofasuburbansoccermom.blogspot.com/2009/03/and-now-word-from-tooth-fairy.html

    It is really hard when the kids stop believing in the tooth fairy, Easter bunny, Santa even. It's like a little bit of our mommyhood also disappears along with their sweet innocence. But, I suppose it's inevitable. Still...I would have strangled that girl.

    :)

    Susan

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  10. Going through that transition stinks. We've done it once...3 more to go. It really stinks she ratted you out--and smirking to boot. It would have made me really sad as well.

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  11. That's definitely out of bounds.

    I would have hauled the little Miss outside and told her that it was none of her business - you all have your own traditions and that was one of them that she spoiled. She should have respected your rules/traditions. She should be made to realise now rather than turning into a nasty piece of work down the track! Not nice for you to have to do the work of raising her - but it may have more impact coming from you?

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  12. AWE!!
    I've been ready to tell my daughter, but haven't been able to let go of the innocence of it either. I am sure she knows...or suspects...but...
    yeah that totally suck that the girl took the decision out of your hands.

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  13. Oh boy Ann, you need to take a happy pill. Of course the little girls is going to tell her best friend what she'd discovered! I just think it's so sweet that you took the time to play fairy. What did her mom say about it?

    Justine :o )

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  14. OH! I totally understand! My husband just had to do the tooth fairy duty last night and Delaney woke up. But he told her she was yelling & had had a bad dream that's why he was there. This does happen about once a week. I thought she wouldn't remember but this morning she came in with the tooth pillow & the $2 and said, Dad was in my room last night when I woke up. Thank goodness I was awake for him to tell me our "story" so I told her she had a bad dream and she was fine with it. It's so sad this could end any day, all the fun of it! But to have a kid, who you're being extra nice to BTW, give it away is very sad!!!

    My friend's nephew lost his first tooth while staying over at her house (his parents don't let him believe in any thing they have never even had YOU KNOW WHO - I can't bring myself to type it even...they thought it was lying to their kids, talk about CRAZY!) Well, my friend told him that he should wrap up the tooth and take it home so the tooth fairy could visit him there. Tragedy averted...so far!

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  15. So sorry your time as tooth fairy has run out. Did the girl keep the dollar?

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  16. Boy, kids sure are rude these days, aren't they? You should have squashed her head. heeheehee

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  17. Sorry sweetheart. That just stinks!! I would have snatched that dollar out of her hand faster than she could say tooth fairy!

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  18. Oh yes I remember how much more fun Holidays were when they beleived. My oldest is now 26, the youngest 14. I rem. the days of dipping my fingers in powder for bunny tracks across the table, down the hall with mini marshmellows for bunny poo.. Wow, tons of memories flood back, and yes I was heartbroken when they no longer beleived. I told them "they" don't come anymore when you dont believe in them. That delayed it for a bit, or at least their admission of it. But now the coolest of feelings is having Grandkids and seeing my Son and his wife carrying on "Our" Family Traditions... Hmmm, Tommorrow, I blog about this, lol Thanks for the inspiration.
    Cherie @bearablescent DOT Com

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  19. I love it, 'cause I can soooo relate!

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