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Mommy's Time Out

I thought I could do it. I thought I could take all the children of the neighborhood, and their friends too, and give them a fun, safe place to be this summer. It turns out that takes more inner strength than I possess. At least day-after-day.

I was able to get away for 2 whole nights last weekend. I had play-dates/sleep-overs arranged for both our girls, and our dog too. While away I received calls about behavior, along with "what should I do?" queries. Hmmm... I wasn't feeling so "away" anymore.

When I returned home I found my home filled with not only my husband and our girls, but 3 neighbor kids and a niece that needed a home for 3 nights. Hmmm...

One by one they greeted me with a hug. In my heart I knew this was a wonderful greeting but, in my head, I was screaming "Get OUT!!!" I put on a plastic smile and headed to my bedroom. Mommy needs a time out.

I couldn't believe how I felt. I was mad at myself. How could I be upset with the fact that kids wanted to be at my house? I should feel happy that they like to hang out here. But I wasn't happy. I started to cry. And I couldn't stop. I had the fleeting thought of 'This must be what a nervous breakdown feels like'.

I stayed in my room for the longest time. I organized my closet and put away clothes that had been in a pile for a month. I went through my drawers and discarded old t's that I knew I would never wear again. I dusted the dresser and tossed old perfume that had lost it's sweetness and smelled like vinegar. Not sexy, unless you're an Easter egg.

It was a good Mommy's Time Out. Very necessary. I'm more aware of my limits now. I am saying "No" more often. I feel a bit sad but, my sad feeling doesn't stay long. I want all the kids to have fun and be safe. I now know that I need to save me first.

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18 comments:

  1. Amen, Halleluah and good for you.

    I tend to do the same thing and then I just lose it. So not worth it.

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  2. Wise (& totally NOTHING wrong with you)....I take bedroom time-outs all the time. Note to self: Re-stock the mommy treat drawer in bedroom.

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  3. don't feel bad...i can actually relate..

    As a kid myself...my house was an open house...snacks were layed for everyone on table, cold drinks for every one....well! mom is a dentist, dad was in army...they could afford it....they could afford hiring help and my friends and their friends could visit on daily basis..

    i feel very guilty i can not do it...once a month invitation is all i can give at my house...and its ok that people do not visit my home on daily basis..i am sahm..i know my limitations..

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  4. I think we all need one of those every so often. It helps put things in perspective. Even better if you can organize stuff at the same time!

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  5. Good for you for knowing what you need and taking care of yourself. That's always the most important thing!
    Hugs!

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  6. I know exactly what you are talking about! I actually like that kids want to come over and I like that I know what my kids are up to, however sometimes you just need a little break. Don't feel bad for it! :)

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  7. I couldn't agree more. If mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy.

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  8. My kids are grown and in their 20's. This still happens at my house and I honestly LOVE IT. It is also why I have an office in the garage and a T.V. in my bedroom, I'm just sayin!

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  9. Today I went and hid on my porch swing and read a chapter of a book. I didn't tell them where I was going I just went and when I came in they were all still watching a movie. This time! I haven't hd others over though, my kids don't seem to have any friends here? (sad? I'm starting to thing it can't be that bad?)

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  10. A little time out is a wonderful thing. And saying NO more is good too!

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  11. Ooh girlie, you shouldn't do this to yourself. I'm sure there are other houses in the neighborhood where the kids can gather to have fun and still be safe and happy. You can't have them at your house all the damn time. Talk about mommy burn-out!

    Just say no!

    Justine :o )

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  12. Drivers Ed saved me....My son goes for 3 glorious weeks, and I wont come home and waste the gas driving there twice in 2 hours, so I go do stuff BY MYSELF..time out good...Im also at home all week, and I work at home too...so a time out is totally neccesary. I love them all, but when im to the point to crying iI need an escape...I like to be the cool house where everyone comes...I also want to be sane. And I dont want to be on the show snapped...lol Have a great day!

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  13. I so completely understand how you felt. It's been a very long summer with kids here. My nephew has been here for over a week and I just want my house back to my family. Don't get me wrong I don't mind the kids here at least then I know what they are doing and that they are safe. It just gets to be tough after awhile.

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  14. oh boy....i have the same problem too. don't worry, you're not insane, you're not going crazy, you still love the kids, you're still you.

    everyone needs ME TIME. Me included.

    saying 'no' is still a problem but i am getting much better at it although sometimes it comes out as.... 'ye-no' and they say 'i know what?'

    ah well. tomorrow i'll get better. :-) and so will you

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  15. I think we all ned a time out once in awhile. And...it sounds like you made good use of yours. Hey, when you're done over there, want to come organize my closet? I'm sure I have more than one expired bottle of perfume that needs to be disposed of. :) My kids are home right now asking me that age old question, "What are we gonna do today?"

    Maybe I should tell them I need a time out??? :)

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  16. I think we all go through that. You want your kids to have their friends over so you know what is going on but there are times when you just want every one to GO AWAY!!! I think it is funny that we both resort to our closets for our time outs.

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  17. Dear, Sweet, Ann, I wonder why it is so hard for us Moms to take a little time for ourselves. I actually had a breakdown- yup, we are talking- ride to the hospital- put her on meds- and take away any sharp objects. I don't feel guilty for my Me Time anymore. Everyone in your house enjoys lots of their own me time, their own fun and hobbies, etc. You never get a chance to breathe because you are too busy making everyone else happy. Carve out some time to read, garden, doodle, whatever it is that gives you joy. No one deserves it more!

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